Giving a very special gift. It's nice to see people's reactions when they open your gift, and know you made their day. Many of us scramble to find the perfect gift for relatives or friends. We can spend hours at the store asking ourselves these questions. What do they need? What can we buy? When it comes to birthdays, you might have given dozens of gifts and received lots, but choosing the right gift is not always easy. What makes a special gift can be anything from the need for a gift to his attention. But what we find most people appreciate is personalization.
There are other ways to choose the perfect gift but it involves changing our perception of what gift giving means. This might be a good guide for you to find the perfect gift.
A useful alternative is to think of gifts as communication. When you give someone a gift, what you really do is talk to them. We first focus on the object or need, then examine what message it conveys. We cannot think of giving a gift in exchange for physical objects. You buy, make, or find a gift that says something to the recipient. They accept the gift, and if they are perceptive, they understand your message. Of course this is clear, but somehow we forget it when we go to choose a present.
If you take advantage of this thought, when you choose a gift, then you can quickly move towards the perfect gift. Ask yourself first, "What do I want to say to this person?" Then move on to "What can I give to those who will communicate this?". This goes against the more general "What can I buy?" And then "What will they think?"
This method could help you come up with some slightly off beat gifts, but at least they will be meaningful. One gift I received recently was given as a result of this kind of thinking. My hunsband gave me a 3 day freedom ticket. He took all my responsibilities for a day and sent me to Singapore to play. He wants to say that he appreciates everything I do, and that he understands that my responsibilities sometimes burden me. It helped him design the perfect gift that was just a break from everything. I love it.
You may realize that a gift is communication when someone gives you a gift and you immediately realize what it says. Some gifts communicate distance, others intimacy. Some say "I like your creativity", others "You have to take care of yourself". Some are truly insulting. The gifts that are communicated are rarely attached to their price tags or prestige. Some of the gifts that I have appreciated the most have been practically free for the giver to arrange for me, but have said so much that they have been immensely valuable.
Of course, there is a warning. If you don't have something positive to say to that person, but feel that you have to give a gift, then go back to your old ways of thinking. Communicating negative things with gifts, may not be the best way to enjoy your opportunity. Try only when you feel brave. The gifts we choose when we think of gifts as communication may be the same as what we would think of in other ways. The difference may be because we arrive at a decision faster and with more certainty that our gift is right for that person.