I think we have forgotten the true meaning of giving gifts. When you walk into any shop, you'll see signs that say "For that special someone" . Advertisements go out on the television and in the newspaper full of just things that people will need. When we were young, it was easy to find out what we wanted for Christmas because we would just look in the adverts and put them on our Christmas Lists to Santa.
When you would open your gifts, you would always, not matter what, get only about half of the stuff on your list. I know that when I was little, I would always get disappointed that I did not get everything I wanted.I now understand why it worked like that. If my parents and Santa didn't get me everything I wanted for Christmas, then they would have gift to get me for my birthday, and majority of the time, the stuff I thought I wanted I didn't really want. "Want" is a funny thing around Christmas time.
We want and want so much, but we never think about the things we actually want. I may want a Laptop for Christmas gifts, but I actually need dress and socks. I think that we ask for the things we want instead of what we need because we assume that because it is Christmas, we might actually get the ridiculous things just because we want it.
As we grow older, we begin to ask for less fun and interesting things. For example, this year I asked for dress and a pair of shoes. How boring is that? My Christmas list used to be so exciting with Barbie this and Barbie that. The gifts that I have bought my family members this year are not things that they have asked for, they are things that I think they will like.
That is the main problem with giving these gifts; you have to guess that someone will like a certain gift because they like that color or sports team. You risk them not liking it, but even if they don't they won't say that they don't, they will pretend and say thanks and then return it the next day.
As you shop for gifts in the short time left before Christmas, I hope you remember what your gift really means. It is more than just a watch, it's you giving them a way to always know the time. It's more than just a random present you grabbed running out of the grocery store, it has meaning, it has purpose. It shows the gift of giving which is the most important gift of all.
Why should we bother buying gifts? My first answer would be – ‘Giving is what separates man from beast’. We all know that giving and receiving a special present can be incredibly powerful and emotional. Remember, it’s more than just a gift it’s a demonstration of your feelings.Gift giving is actually a way to invest in a relationship. In essence, it is a social lubricant, a way to celebrate life, love and friendship and become a better partner, spouse, friend, employer and person.
However there are much more reasons why giving gifts can be meaningful. Giving gifts is not an expression of altruism in the sense that it is our loss, but someone else’s gain. We choose to give gifts ultimately because that is important for us. It is no different from other communications: when we buy a drink in the bar, a pair of shoes or a city trip to Casablanca, we do so because we know it is important – more important than any alternative use of the same money.
The actual definition of a ‘gift’ is the transfer of something without the expectation of payment. Although gift-giving might involve an expectation of reciprocity, a gift is meant to be free. The term gift can refer to anything that makes other people happier or less sad, especially as a favor, including forgiveness and kindness.
Gift giving is something that should not be a chore. It must come from out heart in deep. When you give gifts, you are giving something willingly without wanting something in exchange. Making someone feel happy is much more than other reason to make you give more. It tells the receiver that you were thinking about them.